❤️ Comments on marriage and love
I was recently talking to a friend about marriage, what it’s like, why we did it, and what it means.
Marriage is signing up to dig through each other’s garbage for the rest of your lives. Thriving in a marriage requires humility, sacrifice, and trust. You’re both committing to invest in the growth of each other, knowing that growth often entails bold honesty and pain. It’s not enough to love how they help you grow — you have to love helping them grow too. Growing together means becoming a mirrors built by grace.
In a culture of noncommittal, transactional relationships, it feels like love is rare. Love is an action — the sacrificial commitment to elevate the good of another at cost to self.
Nothing worth doing is ever easy. There is so much risk in real love, but I think that is what makes it worth it. You marry someone because you realize that doing life with them is better than doing it without them.
🧊 High-quality cocktail ice
Good ice can make or break a cocktail. The only thing worse than a watered-down drink is a watered-down drink with bad ice. Ice is water. So if your water sucks, your ice sucks too, and so does your drink.
We spent the 4th up at Lake George and dropped by The Gem for cocktails. Their liquor selection is impressive, cocktails well-balanced, and they have phenomenal ice.
For cocktails at home, recommend buying big silicone cube trays and filling with filtered water only.
🧬 God as a coder
“Who is dead? God or Charles Darwin?”
A biochemist, a mathematician, and a geophysicist discuss Darwin’s theory of evolution in the context of what we’ve discovered over the last 160 years of scientific progress.
This is the first time I've heard the idea of God framed as a coder. Similarly to the Big Bang needing a Big Banger — we can look at the entire material world as information or code pointing to “the looming specter at the possibility of a coder”.
🧘♀️ Get yourself a good yoga mat
If you’re into yoga or stretching, investing in a good mat is paramount.
There is nothing worse than slip-and-sliding all over a smelly piece of plastic while trying to get centered and calm.
I’ve tried a lot of mats — Jade Yoga is the best. It’s worth every penny I spent on it nearly 10 years ago.
📚 Why you should start reading
What an astonishing thing a book is. It's a flat object made from a tree with flexible parts on which are imprinted lots of funny dark squiggles. But one glance at it and you're inside the mind of another person, maybe somebody dead for thousands of years. Across the millennia, an author is speaking clearly and silently inside your head, directly to you. Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people who never knew each other, citizens of distant epochs. Books break the shackles of time. A book is proof that humans are capable of working magic.
—Carl Sagan